09.19.2017

Travel Style || The Jogger Pant (I Swear By Them)

Today is travel day for us, and something both TJ and I have been slightly apprehensive about for the past few weeks. We haven’t taken Harper on this long of a flight since last year at this time… when she wasn’t mobile and didn’t mind just sitting on my lap (or nursing and sleeping the entire flight). We’ve armed ourselves with a few tools (snacks, a musical on the iPad, and some novel toys she hasn’t seen before….) and are hoping to land with half of our sanity left. She’s actually a pretty good traveler, and I’m sure our worries are exaggerated…. but, nevertheless, we’ve prepared ourselves for the worst. That being said, traveling in comfort is key, and if there’s anything I’ve learned over the past couple years, it’s that traveling with a little munchkin means you need pieces that are easy to move in (I’ve relegated jeans to the traveling solo pile). Enter joggers. In my mind, the holy grail of looking pulled together, and practical, while traveling. With an expanding waistband, and looser fit, you can rest assured that you won’t be moving around uncomfortably in your already itty bitty seat. I’ve been wearing this camo pair non-stop over the past couple of weeks…  and my favorite way to wear joggers out in public for fall is paired with an über soft pullover + two toned bag….. comfort, practicality, and style combined.

A few other favorite joggers include this distressed option (wearing tomorrow), more work appropriate pair, thicker option (I own them in blush), and this incredibly soft pair.
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(Outfit Details || Joggers (run large) | Sweater (c/o) | Sneakers (also love these) | Bag (c/o) | Sunglasses | Necklace)

09.14.2017

Fall Trends || Top 5 Tops For Fall

I’ve always been a jeans and top kinda gal…. don’t get me wrong, I love a cute dress (my closet is filled with them), but when it comes to daily living, jeans + a top is the combo I opt for 90% of the time. That being said, with a new season, comes a few new updates to my closet (I purged it last weekend… so there’s room now…). So, while I was shopping last week (I brought my mom along this time for reinforcement with little miss…) I couldn’t help but try a few different tops on when I was in Nordstrom. There were so many great options, and I noticed that all the tops I had fell into one of five categories…. so, I decided to share them with you today….

1. Wrap Top: I love this option for pretty much any occassion. It’s dressy enough for the office, but can be dressed down for weekend wear as well. I prefer mine in a slinky material, which lends itself to a more luxurious feel and fit. I opted to pair this white one with my favorite flat mules and fall fedora for an afternoon of window shopping in Old Town Orange with my mom (TJ watched little miss while she napped). I also have my eye on this flutter sleeve option (in the gorgeous rust color) as well as this velvet burgundy camisole…. both such gorgeous colors for fall.

2. Pullover/Sweatshirt: You all know I’m no stranger to comfort… and a pullover has my name all over it. They’re the perfect “off duty” piece to have in your closet… and if you’re work place is more on the casual side, a great Friday option (if done right). My current favorite is this ruffle number… a little dressier than my typical comfy choice. Yet, I  recently purchased this striped one and this marled grey hoodie and both will be on major repeat all season long.  Pair them with a simple skinny trouser and mule for a casual Friday office look.

3. Bell Sleeved Sweater/Top: While these can range from minimal to dramatic, I tend to keep mine more towards the minimal side of the spectrum (no surprise there….). I love the dimension they add to an outfit. This black one is a great choice to dress up or wear to the office…. and the color of this sweater is perfect for fall. I recently purchased this one to wear with jeans, joggers, and leggings.

4. Thermal Top: Mostly relegated to the “off duty” side of the closet, but a must have for sure. Perfect for lounging, a casual brunch with friends, tossing on as an under layer, or a post work-out top layer. My all time favorites include this one in the ivory color as well as this bell sleeved beauty (last featured here).

5. Classic Button-Down: In a bind, this is a perfect go to with a pair of jeans (or trousers), kicks (or mules), and a cap (leave that off if you’re going to the office….). These are my favorite (and softest) plaids in my closet, a plain white one is always a must, and I love this striped option too.
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(Outfit 1 Details || Sweatshirt (TTS) | Jeans (run small, I sized up 2) | Shoes (also love these) | Sunglasses | Bag)
(Outfit 2 Details || Top (runs TTS) | Jeans | Mules | Bag (vintage, very similar) | Hat (in black))

Thank you to Nordstrom for sponsoring this post. 

09.12.2017

Couple’s Style || The Evolution

TJ and I met 13 years ago. He had graduated, I was still a junior in college. I’d always thought he was cute, and apparently he’d had a thing for me as well…. I just hadn’t known it (probably had something to do with the fact that I had a long distance boyfriend the first couple years of college). Anyhow, we ended up meeting late one night in college, thanks to my girlfriends, at an after party. I remember thinking how cute he looked, and then looked down at his shoe and noticed he had spilled bean burrito on it (I figured he had visited Sara’s…. a local burrito joint that was notorious for late night food….). I remarked on how nice he looked and how the beans sitting on his shoe complimented his outfit (he’ll tell you I’m still just as blunt with him today as I was back then….). He immediately cleaned them off, ever so proud of his appearance. After TJ played the “two day rule” (which almost got him the ax…) we went on our official first date a week later (there may or may not have been several Long Island iced teas involved…).  The rest is history, and here we are today…. and while I’d say that TJ has always had relatively impeccable style, over the years we’ve done a few wardrobe updates.

One of the first items we updated were his jeans…. he was looking for something a little more fitted. So, I took him to Nordstrom to try on a few pairs. He fell for a pair of seven jeans… and a few more items if I recall correctly….

So, when TJ took a new job that required him to work from home, his daily uniform of a suit and tie were no longer fitting (only occasionally necessary). We headed to Nordstrom men’s shop to update his “casual” wardrobe… where we could find exclusive brands at very reasonable price points. We decided that these drawstring trousers easily worked for an off duty weekend look, as well as an at home conference call, and the henley top could easily be worn for a business casual lunch (with these trousers that he also snagged), or to a post spin class brunch on the weekends. A few other items we grabbed for him included this v-neck sweater (also interchangeable with the trousers and drawstring pants), half zip pullover,  trim fit sports shirt, and casual distressed tee (I decided we needed matching ones…). He also has his eye on this puffer vest for a few cooler weather trips we have planned in the coming months. And, if the man in your life needs to wear a suit + tie on the daily, some of TJ’s favorites include the smart care line of dress shirts, which are essentially wrinkle free (!!!), ties, and socks (loves his printed socks….). Either way you go, you’re sure to find good quality for the man in your life.
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(Outfit Details || My Dress (comes in navy, runs TTS) | Jacket | Shoes (also love these) | Sunglasses | Bag | TJ’s Pants | Henley | Shoes | Black Necklace )

Thank you to Nordstrom for sponsoring this post.

09.08.2017

Casual Living || Sweatshirt Dresses x2

Last night, we were driving home from dinner as a family, and Harper ever so politely (not) let us know that she wasn’t a fan of the music we were listening to. TJ and I couldn’t help but laugh, and sarcastically remark, at Harper’s growing demands for her preferences to be given into…. and even though she is young, it’s so amazing to watch as those preferences reveal themselves…. everything from which song is on the radio (or, I should clarify, which Daniel Tiger song is playing), which sippy cup she drinks out of (her current favorites are these), stuffed animal she sleeps with, and which book we read at bedtime. Those preferences are made known. Loudly….

And, that goes for clothes too. The other day when we were at Nordstrom, little miss immediately gravitated to the display of Native Shoes (it really is quite impressive)…. all the different colors had her in shoe heaven….. and we ended up leaving with this pair, as well as these easy to toss on kicks (can you tell she has a color obsession too??). While she liked the color, I liked their durability to handle her sprinting away from me, as well as the ease with which she walked in them. When she insisted on wearing the converse out of the store, I knew we’d found a winning pair….

And, while we were there, she dragged me to the little tikes clothing department too… and oh my, some of the cutest fall styles. We decided that a little sweatshirt dress, from one of our favorite brands, would be a great transitional piece to have in her closet…. easy to run around in, comfortable, and simple to toss on. A few other pieces that she’s loving right now include this adorable jersey dress, floral leggings, floral shirt dress, bomber jacket, and these are her favorite joggers…. I think it’s safe to say that she is quickly curating a closet that I wouldn’t mind having myself!
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(Outfit Details || Harper’s Dress | Harper’s Shoes | Harper’s Jacket | Harper’s Bow | My Dress | My Jacket | My Shoes | Sunglasses)

Thank you to Nordstrom for sponsoring this post. 

09.06.2017

DIY Distressing || My Favorite Graphic Tees With A Personal Touch

When I was in college, I had a plethora of graphic print tees that filled my dresser drawers. They ran the full spectrum from band tees to simple graphic statements… most with a fair amount of distressing… and many with lyrics to songs my girlfriends and I blared on full blast while preparing for an evening out. I wore them with my favorite distressed and paint splattered jeans (yes, you read that correctly, paint splattered) and best heels….

So, as I was doing a little shopping a few weeks ago at Nordstrom, I couldn’t help but feel drawn back to my college days with all the amazing graphic print tees. For me, the beauty of a graphic tee is that it can hold a special place for you…. like this “Merci” tee takes me back to some of my most memorable life moments in Paris… or this sweatshirt which expresses my deep love of rosé (did you know I like rosé??)… this simple tee that reminds me of my natural roots… or this encouraging tee… the options are pretty much endless. And, since I’m such a huge lover of anything distressed and v-necked, I decided to add my own personal touch to my nostalgic tee by giving it a little extra distressing. Which you can easily do too with the simple DIY video tutorial I included below….

And while this tee is perfect for this endless summer weather (as seen in the video) I love it paired beneath a comfy longline cardigan which I also stumbled across at above mentioned shopping trip at Nordstrom. There were so many cute options, all incredibly reasonably priced, that I had a hard time pairing it down. A few others I loved too include this petal marled cardigan with the cutest front pockets and rib trimmed long cardigan. All three are great options to wear with shorts now and jeans later… with your favorite graphic tee, of course!
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(Outfit Details || Tee (sized up 1, under $30) | Cardigan (runs large, 4 color options) | Shoes (seriously, so comfortable, several color options) | Jeans (exact pair, distressed on own) | Sunglasses | Bag)
(Video Details || Shorts | Hat)

Thank you to Nordstrom for sponsoring this post

09.02.2017

Labor Day Weekend Sales || My Personal Favorite That I Own + Love

I hope you’re all having a wonderful weekend! Just wanted to pop by and share some favorites from the Labor Day weekend sales. Almost all of these items are pieces that I personally own and love, or that I am considering. Happy shopping friends!

Nordstrom: 

I can always count on them to have some great markdowns on favorites! This cold shoulder open knit has been marked down for under $50 (featured above) and it’s great for all seasons. Layer it under a coat for fall and winter, and then alone with shorts in the spring and summer. A few of my favorite tees are marked down as well… this flutter sleeve tee in grey, stripe smocked top (I have it in the stripe color, but it comes in 3 other options), as well as this super soft ruffle sleeve top in blush (white option)… great to layer under my favorite embroidered denim jacket (also on sale) for those mild fall days. A few of my favorite lightweight layers include this cold shoulder sweatshirt (I own in blush), henley sweater (from the anniversary sale), stripe bell sleeve top, and lightweight utility jacket. This ruffle sleeve choker top (featured here) is also on sale and I love it as a dressier option, layered under a cute jacket. My favorite fall tunic and knot front slip dress are perfect options to layer under a jacket…. we’re having a heat wave here, so dresses aren’t out of the picture for us…  Favorite workout pieces that are marked down include these capris, (I own in white, but they’re not on sale) that have an amazing fit, mesh leggings (which I’ve owned since last year, size down), and this soft tank. My super cozy joggers and lounge shorts are currently at an amazing price point.

From a shoes and accessories stance, I just got these lace up booties in the chestnut color and they’re seriously super comfortable. If you’re looking for a cute perforated sneaker, these come in so many great color options. One of my favorite pairs of sunglasses just went on sale too.

LOFT:

LOFT is having 30% off regular priced items… and some of my favorites are already on major sale! I can’t wait to wear this knot back sweater (I sized up two) this weekend, and my two favorite alternative to jeans, this black pant and these cargo pants ($20), are both on major sale too.

SHOPBOP + Revolove:

My all time favorite white shorts are on sale, as well as this brown straw hat (which you can stretch through fall with it’s darker color) and this olive oversized pullover (such a great color for fall). My favorite stripe drawstring shorts are on sale too… which I plan on wearing with sweaters and cardigans in mild fall temps. We have a trip to Hawaii coming up, so I’m eyeing little floral dress (love the colors), raw hem wrap dress, blush sweater for a cozy travel day.

08.31.2017

Life || Just Do It

In light of the most recent tragic events in Houston (my prayers and thoughts go out to anyone living in the area), I started to think about “doing life.” So much of life is outside of my control… weather and the actions of others come to mind the quickest… but, so much still remains within my control. I find myself so frequently making statements like, “Wouldn’t it be fun if….” and then never doing the “if…” only to look back months later and wonder why I didn’t…..

One of my “ifs” this summer was to have evening beach picnics with our family. We went through June + July without even stepping foot on a beach as a family… then, last week, I decided it was time to just do my “if.” We spontaneously packed up, grabbed some poké take-out, and headed down to Laguna Beach. We ate, played in the sand and ocean with Harper, and watched some of the sunset. I put Harper’s schedule on hold for the evening (if you can call 30 minutes off “on hold”) and we enjoyed a mid-week family night. It only took two months, but I decided it was time to “just do it…” (thank you Nike….). I guess my point is that we can’t control the tragedies that happen in life… but we can control how much happiness we generate for ourselves (because no one is going to do it for us) and how fulfilled we fill by the life we live…

And, if you’re looking for a way to give back to those who are struggling in the Houston area, I recently saw that diapers are not provided by disaster relief agencies and that the Texas diaper bank is in need of diaper donations to provide emergency diaper kits to the families that are being displaced due to hurricane Harvey. Let me tell you, diapers are so important. I’ve made a donation, and you can check out this site for more information. I know there are lots of ways to give back, but if you’re still looking for the right one, I thought I would share…. we never become poorer by giving….

I guess I should say a little about how my outfit ties into all of this, right? Well, if you’re looking to “just do” something, tossing on all black will be a sure way to look pulled together! My top is a new favorite from BB Dakota, which has been a favorite brand for years. A few other pieces that I love from their fall line include this jacket (that you last saw here), lace up ribbed sweater, faux fur vest (which I am obsessed with), faux suede studded skirt, black lace-up blouse (which I wore to a recent trip to Vegas), and this parka.

Also, my monthly Q+A post will be up tomorrow. Feel free to e-mail me any questions.
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(Outfit Details || Top c/o (floral option) | Jeans | Hat | Sandals | Bag | Sunglasses (similar))

08.29.2017

On Duty, Off Duty || Casual + Versatile Workwear

When I worked a 9-5 office job my days were typically spent outside the “office.” I was either in client’s homes, at their schools, or at the county offices for a meeting. When I was in the office, the dress code was business casual. Dark jeans were allowed, with a specific clause prohibiting “biker shorts….” to which I was slightly amazed it was even in there…. All that to say, I spent most of my time wearing pieces that easily transitioned outside of those 40 hours with simple tweeks. Early on in my career, I decided that I couldn’t stomach spending loads of money on a workweek wardrobe that I couldn’t wear outside of the office as well…. so, I made it a mission to always find items that did just that. Today, I’m sharing how to take your “on duty” to “off duty” status.

**All the alternative options I provide will also pair with the pieces that I am wearing in today’s post. 

1. Neutral, Comfortable Pants: I was fortunate enough that jeans were acceptable in my work environment, but I also invested in a few “basic” trousers. I made sure they were a classic cut, in a neutral color like this option here. While they are drawstring, they easily dress up to be work day appropriate, especially with the cuff at the bottom. Wear them as featured here for the office, and transition them outside of the workweek with sneakers, slides, a comfy pullover, or oversized cardigan and tee. A few other pairs that I would wear to work include this dark wash denim (which I personally own), basic crop trouser, utility pant, and these pleated trousers. All of these options are different, and can easily be dressed up or down.

2. Detailed Top: While I’d never pick something extravagant, I did like tops with simple detailing that made them look slightly dressier for work…. that way they would be perfect for a date night or girl’s night out when I was off duty. Simple lace details are my current favorite, and this top is such a perfect option (I couldn’t resist it in both black and white). It can easily be dressed down with distressed denim as well. I also think a small ruffle detailrelaxed bell sleeve, or combo simple bell and ruffle detail on a cute button-up are all versatile choices.

3. Structured Top Layer: I feel as if this typically pulled my outfit together… but also worked for an evening out as well. This faux suede jacket is a great option. Not too heavy, classic, and a neutral option. I also love this structured utility jacket (a great alternative to the typical blazer), sweater blazer (#obsessed… hello perfect “on duty” + “off duty” option!),  as well as this traditional blazer.

4. Versatile Shoe: I wore flats most of the time, mainly because I was on my feet a lot. Yet, when I wanted a little height, I opted for more of a kitten heel. Both options allow you to wear them on the weekends, or transition to an after work happy hour. You all know how many different ways I wear these mules, and I think they would be perfect for the office. I also think this low heeled mule is a great choice (which I’ve worn casual and dressed up). If you’re looking for a more conservative flat, this scalloped option is great (I own an almost identical pair and wore them to the office all the time)… and a slightly higher heeled option would be these.

5. Simple Accessories: Just like today, I had my favorite simple accessories to top off all my outfits… which easily transitioned into my weekend wardrobe too. Yet, one piece that didn’t always make the transition was the watch. I needed it when I was working… but typically opted to leave it at home when I was off duty.

That’s pretty much all that went into my outfits (with the exception of my favorite classic tote). I think the key is to find neutral color options that can easily be mixed in with pieces that might be a little more statement making (i.e. bold colors). As long as the majority is neutral, you’re sure to be able to mix, match, and move from “on duty” to “off duty” with ease.
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(Outfit Details || Jacket c/o (color parchment, 4 color options) | Tank | Pants (currently 50% off, run large, wearing PXXS, 3 color options, come in regular, petite, + tall) | Mules | WatchBeaded Necklace | Crescent Necklace | Evil Eye Necklace | Bag)


08.24.2017

Couple Style + Some Real Life Marriage Talk

In a world filled with gorgeous images of couples and families flooding social media, let’s just have a little real talk about these in front of you. It took about 15 minutes total to snap them…. my mom was behind the camera… and we were on borrowed time with little miss… who, was present, but not seen in the pictures. She had worked her way through the toys I brought to occupy her, and was now demanding full attention. TJ was trying to make light of the situation, and I was all business, per usual…. so, while we may be all smiles, there was definitely a level of stress going on behind them ….

All that to say, no relationship is without stress or conflict. When I shared this post on stress management last week, I received a lot of questions that related to the marital dyad of the family system. So many, that I decided to dedicate today’s post to it. Back when I was practicing therapy, couples work was the hardest for me… so much so, that I kept it to a minimum. What challenged me the most, was that many couples wanted to have an absence of problems, without having to change the way they operated within the system. First of all, I personally feel that accepting that there will be conflict and disagreements throughout your marriage will actually set you up for success as opposed to failure. A happy and successful marriage doesn’t lack disagreements, it’s how these differences are managed that determines success. Secondly, it takes two. It takes two to tango, so it takes two to make the marriage work (disclaimer here… abuse of any kind is not okay, so, that’s not what I’m chatting about here.). All that to say, a lot of the questions asked how to manage stress in your marriage, make time for each other, and how to keep the spark alive. So, today, I will attempt to answer some of these questions, more from a personal, more anecdotal, perspective.

**I do want to add here that just because I offer some personal tips, it in no way means that we have a perfect marriage. Hardly. We just know how much our marriage matters and are willing to work really hard at keeping it a priority.** 

1. How do you keep the spark alive after 7 years of marriage and two children?

Date your husband. Date your wife. TJ and I can always tell when we’ve gone a little too long without focusing on each other. We get testy, snappy, and feel disconnected. Of course, we try not to wait that long, but life happens, and we use that as a loud reminder that we need to book the babysitter and head out for some alone time. This is the same thing I recommended to the couples I worked with…. marriage takes work… just like dating did… so, why stop dating the person you worked so hard for? It doesn’t have to be an extravagant date… TJ and I try to get 3 hours in on a Saturday morning… or a few hours in the evening for a happy hour cocktail…. or even a quick mid-week hour or two alone together. Just enough time to reconnect, without interruptions.

Knowing one another’s Love Language is also incredibly helpful. TJ and I try to have check-ins a few times a month. Is your bucket full? Or is it feeling a little depleted? Knowing what fills the other’s bucket is like giving them a gift they really want. I heard this concept explained this way: We tend to love others the way we want to be loved… but would you give someone a gift that you wanted but they didn’t really need or care about? Likely not. So, knowing what fills your partner’s bucket is filling it in the way they need it to be filled. It really really helps.

2. How do you manage stress when both you and your significant other are stressed out? 

So. Hard. It’s never easy when TJ and I are both in a place of stress. Yet, what we’ve found, and still have to work on to this day, is that we need to manage our stress individually, instead of hoping the other person will fix it for us. That means knowing what I personally need to do to manage mine… sometimes that means we have an evening where it’s pretty quiet in the house…. where I’m doing my stress management and TJ is doing his.

Something that probably comes before all of that though is being able to communicate to the other how you are feeling… before the feelings of stress start to impact the relationship. Sometimes, for us, this is just a simple statement that “I’m really stressed right now and just need some time to figure it all out tonight.” Or, sometimes it means figuring out ways to split the parenting responsibilities so we can both have time to regroup individually.

3. If you could share tips on how to accommodate to you and your partner’s busy lives with different jobs + being supportive of them while still finding time to spend together that would be helpful! My boyfriend and I are in medical school and it gets a little stressful to find a balance. 

I can only imagine how busy and demanding both of your schedules are. While this is in no way the same, I remember when TJ and I were first married, I was studying for my licensing exam, TJ was working full time, and in the last year of his MBA program. It was hugely stressful for us both, and I felt as if most of our time was spent studying or working. TJ was so stressed he started sprouting gray hairs. All that to say, I remember that we scheduled in date nights. We would look at our schedules and block out time to do things we love together…. so, after mid-terms, or after a licensing class I had, we would find a weekend or week night to schedule in a long bike ride, hike, or dinner out. It likely couldn’t be an all day thing, since some of the weekend needed to be spent studying, but it was also nice to know we had something scheduled so we could reconnect. Also, if possible, scheduling in mini dates, at home, can be a great way to reconnect. Find a night during the week, make dinner together, pick a rom com, and have some popcorn (or wine….).

4. My fiancé and I will be married in November. Do you have any advice for newlyweds? And being that you’re also a mental health professional, what can we do to manage our stress on this side of things? 

Yay! Congrats on your upcoming marriage! Such an exciting time. TJ and I always say that the first year of marriage was our hardest (not trying to be a downer!!). So, my first piece of advice would be to give yourself time to figure everything out. For us, we had to navigate how to manage finances together, weather ups and downs (my grandpa, nana, and dog died within the first 6 months of us being married, and then my car needed thousands of dollars of unexpected repairs….), and how to live in such close quarters. I had an unrealistic expectation that it would be easy peasy. So, just knowing that there will be an adjustment period and allowing for it to happen is helpful. Trust that you will eventually find your stride. This is actually the advice we gave to my sister and her husband right before they got married.

Managing stress as a mental health professional is so important too! I recommend mental health days, having supportive co-workers, or a support group, where you can bounce the challenges and stresses off of! Those are the things that I found most helpful in managing my personal stress from the job.

5. How do you deal with not taking your stress out on your spouse? That probably makes me sound horrible. But by the end of the day, after I’ve gotten off work, cooked dinner, put baby to bed and he isn’t picking up the few messes I didn’t get to, it’s hard for me not to get frustrated. I tell myself this every morning, but by 8pm, I’m exhausted and wish he would at least start the dishwasher for me! 

After a long day, it’s so normal to feel exhausted and worn out, and to want some help. We’ve all taken our stress out on our significant other (if you haven’t, please leave your secrets below…..) so don’t feel bad at all! Like I said in the beginning of the post, it’s all about how we eventually manage the disagreement/issue that matters. What we’ve found to be helpful is to use the very cheesy, yet effective “I statements,” even though, at that point in the evening, all we want to do is point the finger and blame. Example? The other night I went to load a wash in the dryer and discovered a bunch of TJ’s clothes still in there… meaning they needed to be folded (or tossed into some corner of the house, only to sit there for who knows how long). I was pretty irritated. So, I took a few deep breaths, and walked out to TJ. I basically just said how I felt about the situation and what I felt would be helpful for me. Without attacking him, he was able to see where I was coming from and we agreed on a plan for the future. Does this always happen? Um, not. But we really really try.

A couple of other effective tools we’ve used to deal with stressors/difficult topics include:

Taking a break from the topic and setting an agreed upon time to re-address the issue. Sometimes there comes a point when talking about an issue is no longer productive. Tabling it and coming back to it with less frustration can make a huge difference… and prevent hurtful things from being said….. This one is my favorite. Sometimes a little space allows you to see it from the other’s perspective.

TJ thinks it’s helpful to hold my hand when we’re having a heated conversation. I don’t. Haha… maybe that will work for you??…..

Trying to fight fair…. no mimicking, eye rolling, name calling, etc…. it never makes the situation better. Ever.

Ok, that’s it! Again, we are far from perfect, but these are some of the tools I’ve taken from my work in therapy to our marriage that we’ve felt have been effective!
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(Outfit Details || My Jeans (cut hem on my own) | My Top (similar options here, here, here, here) | My Shoes | My Sunglasses | TJ’s Jeans | TJ’s Top | TJ’s Sunglasses)

All clothing provided by Paige Denim 

08.22.2017

Everyday Style || Favorite Basics Under $100 + The Best High Waisted Leggings. Ever.

I wish I could say this is my “off duty” look…. buuuuut, I pretty much wear some variation of this outfit several times a week. Whether it’s on a relaxing weekend, a day of traveling for a short getaway, or a day with little miss…. one of the basics is bound to find themselves in my wardrobe line-up, and yesterday wasn’t any different…. Monday’s tend to be a day of catching up and getting everything back in order from the weekend, so I tossed this outfit on and got stuff done….

My everyday basics typically include six pieces that I can mix and match with other items I own… and toss together to create something that looks pulled together (even if inside I’m a #hotmess). Nordstrom is always my go-to place for great quality basics at reasonable prices…. with each clothing piece I am wearing under $100. My basics can be worn year around by simply mixing them together with other everyday items I own. Which is basically the key to a great, cross season wardrobe. So, today, I’m sharing my everyday basics that I can’t live without.

1. Leggings: A good ol’ pair of stretchy pants will never steer you wrong. I promise. These are my all time favorite high waisted pair… lightweight, yet thick enough to hold everything right where it needs to be. They easily transition from workout to any aprés activity. I love leggings because you can toss on a cute tunic and suede jacket for a classier look… or toss them on with over the knee boots and a chunky, oversized sweater for the perfect rosé sipping get-up. A good pair will take you just about anywhere. I also love this motto option (which I own in olive and black) and these faux leather leggings.

2. Basic Tee: My holy grail when I’m in a pinch. When I’ve pulled out every single top in my dresser drawers in search of something to wear…. ninety percent of the time I reach for the basic tee. A classic layering option… it can be dressed down (as seen today) or up with some simple gold accessories, your favorite distressed jeans, and a pair of mules. One of my all times favorites is this choker option, since it’s a fun twist on a basic v-neck…. yet, I also own and love this v-neck (in white) and this lace up grommet tee (particularly fond of the black….).

3. Denim Jacket: My favorite alternative to the oversized cardigan is the distressed denim jacket. My favorite from last year was restocked, and I love wearing it in these transitional months in the cooler mornings and evenings, and tying it around my waist in the afternoons. I also love the embroidery on this one (which I bought during the sale). Distressing makes it a little less structured which I like for an everyday option, but, if you’re looking for one sans rips, my favorite is this lighter wash option (I sized up for a slightly looser fit).

4. Simple Kicks: And, I should probably add, comfortable. Most days, even on the weekends, I don’t sit down until the evening. So, whatever I’m wearing on my feet has to be cute and comfortable. For the transitional months, I wanted a slide that I could easily toss on… and when I found these, I was sold. I wore them all day yesterday with little miss and they were super comfortable and functional (they’re also a fraction of the price of this pair!). Two other favorites include these white kicks (which are like walking on clouds….) and this pink mesh pair (perfect to pair with a neutral outfit to add a little bit of color).

5. Hair Accessory: I use that term loosely, since what readily comes to mind is a scrunchy (no thank you). I’m either dealing with hair that’s one day past due a wash, so I use this dry shampoo to give it a little boost, or I toss on a cap, throw my hair in a loose pony, and call it a day.

6. Large Tote: Preferably one that can hold all of my stuff and little miss’…. and can easily be cleaned… since dirty hands are always finding their way into my bag. For that, I turn to this amazing black tote or this blush option. I use both regularly, and they are large enough to fit whatever your heart desires, while still having room left over.
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(Outfit Details || Leggings | Top (comes in several colors) | Jacket | Slides | Hat | Sunglasses | Tote)

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